Know the Signs of a Toxic Relationship

Abuse can take many forms and manifest in different types of relationships, not just romantic ones. In this blog, we want to shed some light on the different types of abuse so that you know the signs.

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Abuse can take many forms and manifest in different types of relationships, not just romantic ones. In this blog, we want to shed some light on the different types of abuse so that you know the signs.

Romantic Relationships

While love should be the foundation of romantic relationships, some can harbour toxic dynamics. Recognise the early signs of control, manipulation, or violence. Communication and respect are key elements in building a healthy foundation.

Physical Abuse - Hitting, slapping, or any form of physical violence.

Emotional/Psychological Abuse - Constant criticism, humiliation, or manipulation to control the partner.

Financial Abuse - Controlling access to money, or withholding financial resources as a form of manipulation.

Friendships

Abuse can seep into the realm of friendships through manipulation, betrayal, or emotional harm. True friends uplift and support; be aware of those who undermine your wellbeing.

Emotional Manipulation - Using guilt or emotional tactics to control the friend's actions or decisions.

Isolation - Discouraging the friend from spending time with others and attempting to control their social life.

Family Relations

Abuse within families can be complex, ranging from emotional to physical harm. Acknowledging the presence of abuse is the first step toward breaking generational cycles and facilitating healing.

Physical Abuse - Hitting, slapping, or any form of physical violence.

Verbal Abuse - Insults, name-calling, or constant yelling within the family.

Neglect - Failure to provide basic needs or emotional support. 

Power Dynamics

Abuse can manifest in relationships where power imbalances exist. Whether in a professional setting or personal life, recognising and challenging these dynamics is essential to prevent abuse.

Abuse of Authority

  • Misusing power to control and manipulate subordinates.
  • Withholding opportunities or resources as a means of control.

Work Relationships

Your manager

Abuse in the workplace, especially from a superior, can take the form of bullying, harassment, or exploitation. Understanding workplace rights and encouraging a culture of accountability is vital.

Bullying

  • Constantly belittling or demeaning employees.
  • Setting unrealistic expectations and using fear tactics to maintain control.

Exploitation

  • Overworking employees without fair compensation.
  • Ignoring or dismissing concerns about working conditions.

Sexual Harassment

  • Unwanted advances, comments, or any form of inappropriate behaviour of a sexual nature.
  • Creating a hostile environment through unwelcome sexual comments or advances.

Your lecturer

Abuse within academia can occur when power dynamics are exploited. Recognise boundaries and report any behaviour that crosses ethical lines.

Abuse of Authority

  • Exploiting the power dynamic to mistreat or discriminate against students.
  • Using grading or academic decisions as a form of control.

Sexual Harassment

  • Unwanted advances, comments, or any form of inappropriate behaviour of a sexual nature.
  • Creating a hostile environment through unwelcome sexual comments or advances.

Relationship with Yourself

Self-abuse, in the form of negative self-talk, self-neglect, or destructive behaviour, is a silent but pervasive issue. Cultivating self-love and seeking support when needed is vital for personal well-being.

Negative Self-Talk

  • Constantly criticising and belittling yourself.
  • Engaging in harmful self-talk that erodes self-esteem.

Self-Isolation

  • Withdrawing from friends and activities that bring joy and fulfilment.
  • Neglecting self-care and prioritising others' needs over your own.

University Support

Remember, if you think you could be in an abusive or unhealthy relationship or are worried about a friend, then please don’t hesitate to reach out to the University's Wellbeing team. They will be happy to discuss the situation with you to help you make informed choices, ask questions and seek support.  

You can contact the Wellbeing team by emailing wellbeing@royalholloway.ac.uk.   

Within the Wellbeing team, there is also the Student Counselling Service, which can help with relationship-related problems. They work in a non-judgmental way to help you.

External Support

We've also put together a list of external resources with helplines, information and support in case you need it.

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